Last night I had a dream that woke me up like a nightmare, but the weird this is, it wasn’t a scary dream. Still, I woke up shook and afraid. Here’s what happened: I dreamed my family had gotten a nice new car. We were preparing to park it in a city, and trying to figure out how to hide our valuables so we wouldn’t draw attention to our car when we left it. For some reason, I got out of the car to try and figure out this detail, and I’d forgotten to put the car in park. We realized this when the car actually started to roll away! I panicked! I started chasing the car, running as fast as I could! I was upset, and shouting at anyone I could see for help. I saw the car twist and turn down the street, rolling down hills and out of sight. I could see in the distance a highway, or series of highways where I knew my car would be destroyed if it got that far. When I caught up to the car, it had crashed, and authorities were already clearing the debris. I was so upset, and I woke up jolted by the trauma of what I’d just witnessed in my dream.
I asked Michael to help me figure out the meaning, and at first we both thought of chasing after the world and temporary pleasures. But, then I thought about it a little deeper. I realized that my dream meant that we had been distracted by the details of the situation and our vehicle slipped away. If family culture is the vehicle, what happens if it escapes us? What happens if we aren’t inside steering where it goes? It is up to us to define where that vehicle is going to take us, but we need to get inside and start driving!
Lately, I’ve learned that part of my own personal problem with making the decision to get in and drive is I always second-guess myself! I always question myself! Then, I heard this scripture during a talk:
If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.
But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.
For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord.
A double minded man is unstable in all his ways (James 1:5-8 KJV).
When I heard “a double minded man is unstable in all his ways” my mind went directly to the realization that I was always second-guessing myself. I knew that by always doubting myself, I was as good as being double-minded!
In this episode, I go into more detail about how to solve this double-mindedness, and get clear on your identity and purpose, as individuals and families!
[1:00] I describe my dream
[3:10] Interpreting the dream
[5:15] Quote: “‘Company culture’ doesn’t exist apart from the company itself: no company has a culture; every company is a culture.” Peter Thiel, Zero to One
[6:00] What does it mean to be intention?
[7:30] My feelings of self-doubt and second-guessing myself
[10:00] Get in the car!
[11:23] James 1:5-8 Double mindedness and how to solve it.
[13:45] Adulting requires us to live our own lives and follow our dreams
[16:27] Keep the vision in front of you every day to keep it clear
[17:14] Discover yourself on the path!
[17:45] The Matrix analogy
[19:18] Do the work of developing your family culture by doing those things that reveal who you are and develop your character as a family
[19:51] The Family Reset from TJEd and Rachel DeMille.
[20:30] “Living After the Manner of Happiness” by Jeffrey R. Holland
[21:20] the mind dump by Mel Robbins
[21:50] Time blocking
Resources mentioned in this episode:
“Firm and Steadfast in the Faith of Christ” by D. Todd Christofferson
“Zero to One” by Peter Thiel
“How to Raise an Adult” by Julie Lythcott-Haim
“The 6-Point Plan: Advice for new Homeschoolers and Families Needing a ‘Reset’” by Rachel DeMille
“Living After the Manner of Happiness” by Jeffrey R. Holland
“How to stop feeling overwhelmed right now” by Mel Robbins
“Get Organized the Clear & Simple Way” by Marla Dee
“The ‘Block Schedule’ System – LIFE CHANGING Productivity Hack” by Jordan Page
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