My husband, Michael joins me in this episode to talk about our recent decisions to transform our family culture. I lately posted three episodes telling our story and all that we have learned on this journey of figuring out our values and vision!
You can listen to those episodes here:
Today’s episode is a continuation of this saga. A while back, I posted in Instagram that Michael had left his job. Actually, he quit his corporate job, and started working in the same industry for another firm as an independent contractor (see the post below). This move started us down a course of learning what it takes to be self-employed in a way. We had to learn how to get insurance for our family that was not through an employer. We learned about paying taxes that weren’t automatically deducted from the paycheck. We started an LLC for his work. All that being said, he was still employed and working in the same industry he’s been in for the past six years, and still miserable. That was our “back-up” plan. That was all we knew how to do.
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I am so proud of this man! Today is the end of a chapter, and the beginning of a new adventure. Today, Michael submitted his notice to leave his position. We don’t know what we will do next but we know that we cannot keep doing this anymore. (Don’t worry, we have a back-up plan). For ten years we have had one foot out the door waiting and hoping something else would come along to sweep us away from our life; hoping that one of those resumes would finally get results; hoping that someone would finally see his profile, or appreciate his capabilities; hoping to be somehow rescued from our situation. The reality is, the only person that needs to appreciate who you are is YOU. The only person capable of changing your life is YOU. It has taken a long time to recover the confidence to step out into the dark. We always justified our choices that we needed security, or we needed more faith. We have followed what we thought was inspiration before, only to end up getting burned. I don’t know what’s going to happen this time. All I know is that we are taking steps toward living our authentic lives. God-willing, we are gonna make it! #authenticity #goodbyejob #faith #corporateamerica #selfemployment #selfefficacy #abundance #conveyorbelt #unscripted #fastlane #ambitious #leadership #independent #marriage #partnership #eternalcompanion #bestfriend
In March, Michael and I started to get an inkling that there was a new path we needed to take. We started noticing messages stand out to us about taking a leap of faith, and making major changes. We knew that if we didn’t make a drastic change soon, we were going to go crazy! Michael also knew that if he kept doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results he would lose his mind. He did not enjoy his industry. His employer knew this, and offered him a raise whenever he’d express his displeasure. Here’s the thing, no amount of money will ever change a miserable situation. It has actually been proven that people would rather do what they love and make less than get paid more to do something they hate.
Michael’s dreams, skills, and knowledge were put on the back burner, and we weren’t even surviving. We discussed it, prayed about it, studied it out, prayed about it some more, and knew that he needed to leave for good. One of the stories that inspired us the most is of Peter walking on water. The curriculum we are studying on this subject opens like this:
“What could have inspired Peter to leave the safety of his boat in the middle of the Sea of Galilee during a boisterous storm? What led him to believe that if Jesus could walk on water, he could too? We can’t know for certain, but perhaps Peter understood that the Son of God came not just to do wonderful things for the people but to empower people like Peter to do wonderful things too. Jesus’s invitation, after all, was “Come, follow me” (Luke 18:22). Peter had accepted this invitation once, and he was willing to accept it again, even if it meant facing his fears and doing something that seemed impossible. Perhaps the Lord will not ask us to step out of a boat in the middle of a storm or contribute our meager supply of bread when thousands need to eat, but He may ask us to accept directions even when we don’t fully understand them. Whatever His invitations to us may be, they may sometimes seem surprising or even frightening. But miracles can happen if we, like Peter, will set aside our fears, our doubts, and our limited understanding and follow Him in faith” (Come, Follow Me, March 25-31).
This story spoke directly to us. We knew God needs us to do something as drastic as jumping out of the boat. Michael officially gave his notice, and we have begun our journey of living more deliberately. We can’t wait for “some day” or when we achieve such-and-such goal to be happy. We need to start living for now regardless of the results. Perhaps the results we dream of will never happen! Win or lose, whatever the result, we will know that we are following a path meant for us!
It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat. ~Theodore Roosevelt