And the most important thing a mother can do for her children is to respect their father!
In his book “Love & Respect” Dr. Emerson Eggerichs says that while women require unconditional love, men require unconditional respect. This is how to avoid what he calls “the crazy cycle” in marriage.
Ultimately, the tone of the marriage relationship will play a major factor in the culture of the home. When children know their parents love and support each other, they feel more secure, they have a better sense of what a healthy relationship looks like, and they are more likely to be resilient.
Alright, so that isn’t a scientific quote, but I know I’ve read it in psychology. Even so, it is just good practice, and everyone is happier. If a happy marriage isn’t in the cards for you, just setting a good example of respect to other adults, even an ex, has the same result. By only using respectful language in front of our kids, they will get the message.